The Freedom In Not Needing Attention

What makes me happy about not getting the attention I used to - is that I can now walk by construction sites and not feel uncomfortable.  The first time I realized that I was no longer a target was almost a bit confusing. Wait did I just walk by a construction site?  Wow these must be some evolved men.  hahaha  It took me a couple of hours to get it.  Ohhhhh ok - hmmm am I sad? No - disappointed?  No but it took a little bit of a mind shift.  It didn't happen overnight.  It's an ending for sure but would I still want the staring and comments?  No. There is a now a type of freedom in it.  No more hunching shoulders and looking down.  Just standing up straight and taking my space.  

‘Men no longer stare at me now that I’m in my 40s, and it’s wonderful.’

Mamamia  |  Helen Vnuk

When you’re young and female, male attention is a given, whether you want it or not. You walk past a group of men and you can feel their eyes on you. Men’s conversations with you often have an undercurrent of flirtation. Random strangers try to hit on you.